Monday, February 29, 2016

A Letter To Sterling


 
December 15, 2014
 
Dear Sterling,     
I’m not usually a procrastinator, but I have been putting off writing this letter.  You see, not quite a month ago we had to say good bye to you.  I haven’t let myself deal with it.  I haven’t been able to in the busyness of life with 4 little ones.  I know I need to deal with it.  But, I don’t want to.  This season of life is so busy that it has almost been easy to put it out of my head.  And, our house is NEVER quiet.  Its always loud and busy and chaotic.  Except at night time.  When everyone is sleeping and the house is quiet and I get up to feed Cooper.  Then it hits me like a freight train. .  It’s so unbearable that’s it’s almost overwhelming. I really would rather not deal with it…just keep finding things to do to keep busy and to keep my mind off of it.  But, I know I need to, so I am forcing myself to sit down and face it.  It probably seems silly to most people to write a letter to a dog, but that’s ok.  I don’t mind looking silly.  I just have to let you know how very special you were.  To all of us.  I don’t ever want to forget how much you meant to our family.  I know I don’t need to tell you how much we loved you.  You knew.  Of course you did.  And you loved us back with the same intensity.  I can’t tell you how many people made the comment , “Boy, that Sterling sure loves ‘her people’.”  You adored us every bit as much as we adored you.

You were the cutest puppy Sterling.  We had never seen anything so cute.  Sure, every pup is adorable, but you were beyond cute.  As you grew, you only got more beautiful.  You were a show stopper, especially when Jer drove you around in his convertible!  Everyone always stopped  wanting  to pet you and find out more about you. 

You were our whole world and from the very beginning, you made it very clear that you were a part of the family and you would not be left out.  And we were fine with that.  We were all happy to take you everywhere with us.  When you weren’t with us, something was missing, and it was never as much fun.  That’s why I’m not really sure how we are going to get along without our sweet Sterling.  There is a huge void without you.  When Jerry pulls up in his car and that little head and perky ears don’t pop up in the back to greet us, it’s just not the same.  When we go to his house and we don’t hear the clicking of your nails following us all over the house, it feels like we are in the wrong place.  There’s no blanket on the couch and no dog bed by the fire and I don’t even know what to do with myself.  I don’t know how we are going to get through our 1st Christmas without you.  You loved putting on your pretty Christmas collar, sitting in the middle of it all, helping to unwrap the presents, shredding the discarded paper into teeny tiny bits and unraveling all the bows.  It’s a bear knowing you’re not here to do that this year.  I kind of just want it all to be over with.  My heart just isn’t in it.  But, I will put a big, sloppy smile on my face and do it for the kids.  That’s what parents do.  And, I suppose, that’s what you’d want us to do too.

I was dreading the weeks getting closer to your 12th birthday.  Jake made it to his 12th birthday and passed away 3 weeks later.  I remember trying to convince myself to relax and thinking “It’ll be ok, she is doing well, she is still perky and healthy despite her diabetes.”  And then 3 weeks later, Jer woke up and found you at 5:30 am lying in the grass in the freezing cold.  Seems like a cruel joke.  Or a cruel coincidence.  I don’t know which.  I do know that we weren’t prepared for it.  None of us could imagine having to say goodbye to our pretty girl.

I am thankful that we had you for 12 amazing years Sterling.  I just want to thank you for everything.  Thank you for being the best girl we could ask for.  Thank you for that irresistible personality.  Thank you for putting all those smiles on our faces over the years.  Thank you for finding the strength to fight through complete  blindness and diabetes and for coming back to us.  We were so blessed to have you for those  extra couple of years.  Thank you for that adorable little “stub” that always let us know how happy you were to see us.  Thank you for sticking around to see all of our babies born.  Thank you for being such a bright light and for being the heart beat of our family.  Thank you for giving 100% of yourself to us.  Always.  Just, thank you.  Thank you for being you.  Thank you for being ours.  For letting us all share you.  And love you.  Thank you for “picking” us 12 years ago.  What a ride it was.


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